I read recently about the Chimp Paradox. We have a human mind (where we think logically and rationally), a far more powerful Chimp mind (in essence our intuition and instincts, emotions, etc) and a computer that takes information from both the monkey mind and human mind.
If you can rationalise with the Chimp mind, you can then deal with a situation calmly, using the human. When I look back now at some arguments I’ve had with my other half, I can see how we would both argue with our irrational, emotional Chimp minds.
And another book I read, how we over think and dwell on stuff. That instead of over thinking, to acknowledge the thoughts and let them go without judging. That if we are in a sad mood and we can let our thoughts go and simply quieten our minds we can get ourselves back into a happy place without trying.
This makes me think of all the times when I might be feeling a little off and my husband would persistently ask if I was in a mood and make me feel even grumpier! And I would do the same to him. Firstly, he’d be all sulky and I’d take it personally and get defensive. And the more I’m getting wound up, the more we are both annoying each other. Suddenly we’re both over thinking and with our Chimp minds can’t possibly pull ourselves out of our moods.
So don’t get pulled into someone elses bad mood. Give them the chance to pull themselves out of it. Give them space. And if you feel it’s you getting into a mood, observe it without judgement, let whatever thoughts that are troubling you go, and allow your mind the chance to lift itself.
No chimps were harmed in the writing of this blog…